I sometimes hear from wives who have read that it’s best to remain calm when your husband is asking for or saying that he wants a divorce. The reason for this is that your panic can cause you to do or say all of the wrong things and to make the divorce that much more likely. This makes sense on the surface. Saying that you should remain calm is easy. But actually doing it can be very difficult if not impossible. When what you fear the most is staring you right in face, it can be very difficult to reign in your feelings.
I heard from a wife who said: “I know that I should be calm and shouldn’t panic, but this is a divorce that we are talking about. This is my life. This is my marriage. We are talking about the heart and not about our heads. How are you supposed to remain calm when the man who you love most in the world, and the father of your children, is telling you that he wants a divorce? I want to keep my cool, but I just don’t see how I can.”